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Last post, I talked about work being the fulcrum of our dreams. However, what I did not mention was that we must never work with the similitude of lemmings. Our work must have direction, must be focused!

Joseph gave us a peek into this situation in his dream when he said, “we were all out in the field gathering bundles of wheat.”
The bloke did not see himself dressmaking, fetching water or leading sheep which was the first job we saw him doing before his brothers sold him into slavery.
Joseph was specific in his dream. He was putting sheaves together. He was providing solution to a food problem. He was producing value in the food industry.


This opened my eyes to the fact that our dreams should be focused on problem solving and creating value for a particular niche of life. It is not a surprise that in the future, we later saw him solving a global food issue.

Like a GPS system, the problem solving dream traversed time and space and guided him like a heat seeking missile smack-dab into the middle of a global food crisis where he was the only one with the wherewithal to resolve the conundrum.


Fact : Working on our dreams around the clock alone won’t cut it. Our dreams must be purposeful and precise with a problem solving mission. Working hard with that in mind is what will guarantee hitting the mother-lode no matter how long it takes.

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So question for us is what industry of life are we dreaming of? What problems are we dreaming and thinking of solving in that industry?

All our work has to be geared towards something in the pursuit of our dreams. The greatest dreamers were those who had adding value in mind and value came back to them. They were like bees producing honey in particular areas of life e.g Henry Ford, Steve Jobs, Mel Gibson, Muhammed Ali, Sam Adeyemi, etc.

The list is endless and with the passage of the sands of time, more names that we are quite familiar with will be added to the distinguished roll call.


Joseph again reminded me of God. God had a dream for humanity and worked towards it by sending his Son. This was written about the Heir he sent, “For this PURPOSE the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil.”


What problems would you be remembered for solving? Remember Joseph was still a teenager when he had his problem solving dreams.



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I did a couple of posts on dreams at the beginning of the year and revisiting the life of the dreamer recently made my eyes pop once again as if I were Alice in wonderland.


It occurred to me that in a world where most would want to be magicians conjuring wealth and success like bunnies out of hats (this really applies to a country like ours riddled with 419 schemes, kidnappings and all kinds of nefarious activities. Youths wanting to become Dangotes in two shakes of a lambs tail) and where people bind and loose at the drop of a hat, most would have quickly denounced and rejected Joseph’s dream.

We would have woken up the next morning shouting tufia, snapping our fingers over our heads, pleaded the blood of Jesus until we were hoarse, visited some charlatans garbed as prophets to cast out the demons behind such invading visions and all sorts of clowning activities.


For most, a dream would be about a cruise, sipping Piña Colada on the beaches of the Caribbean, taking selfies on camels in Dubai, house warming, driving the much coveted Bugatti, having a wedding in Vegas, etc.

Then along comes the poster child of dreams and he poo-poos on everything we hold dear with his dream.


Joseph dreams that he was on a farm, smeared with dirt, grimy, sweaty and stacking food.
WHAT KIND OF A DREAM WAS THAT??????!!!!!
Who wants to see himself slaving away on a farm instead of a boat ride along the Danube???


Dude was working; his dream was built on work. He saw a revelation of himself being industrious.

His dream told us to wake up and smell the coffee; that our dreams won’t mean squat if we are lazy!
That work ethic guided him all his life and took him from slavery and incarceration to the palace.


Every authentic dreamer must see himself engaged in meaningful work!

For any dream to come true the instrumentality of work has to take an upper role, call the shots, and dictate the direction of our deepest desires.


It is actually not farfetched, first time we met God in Genesis, He was in heavenly overalls working and putting a dream he had for the world in place.
He put His back into it so much that he had to go on vacation after it all.


A major malady plaguing our nation from our political to educational systems and more is that most want the vacation without the work and this has resulted in decrepit systems.


For any dream to be actualized, it must be worked at religiously, whether spiritual, professional, financial, and growing older I have come to know that it also applies to marital and parental.


Dreams are bridges that connect our present with our future. What forms the foundations of those dreams is work.

That means lazy people cannot access the future.
That means without work, there is no enduring tomorrow.


It is profound what Jesus said.... MY FATHER WORKETH HITHERTO, AND I WORK!


TO BE CONTINUED.....


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For us, investing in teenagers is key. Training them to be better adults and leaders.

With the assistance of our financial partners and Daystar Leadership Academy, 22 teenagers were sponsored all expense paid, to attend Daystar Leadership Academy for Teens in July, 2015. We appreciate you all. Because of you our sponsors, 22 teenagers got better.

The training which is done yearly, every July ; is a 5 day event. Yes 5 days seems short, yet long. However, teenagers from the different social starta come together in a conducive environment with seasoned facilitators to learn life, soft and hard skills.

These first set of teenagers sponsored under the umbrella of Better Me Global were drawn from Bariga and Isolo areas of Lagos.

We are thrilled because some teenagers now see that life can get better.

Some teenagers get to use a public toilet in Nigeria for the first time where you are not afraid to eat inside because it's very clean and kept clean.

Some get to sit in an air-conditioned room for the first time to learn.

Others get to the treated and spoken to with respect as a teenager for the very first time at this training. This builds self esteem.

Some gets to be in an environment where it is illegal to throw dirt on the floor for the first time. So they see that cleanliness is possible.

Getting teenagers from different locations to attend helps foster social equality and inclusion.

We believe that our future leaders must be part of the leadership process from now.

The results might not be evident so soon. However, we believe the seeds of greatness, relevance and purpose are being sown.
Setting them up for new positive dreams, disruption, positive mindset, and helping them see they can live above mediocre culture.

July is here again. More teenagers desire to experience learning in a whole new environment.

If you wish to sponsor, please subscribe to our feed and send us a mail.
You could also reach us by mail to This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. .

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The One with the outstretched hand

He is able to save
Deliver
Protect
Heal
Rescue
Resuscitate
Redeem
Revive
Re-position
Replace
Return
Restore
Provide

Yes provide for all your needs
He daily loads us with benefits, even the God of our Salvation.
You might be thinking no one cares about you or for you. Trust me Olowogbogboro does care.
He provides what we need per time.

FACT : We may not always get what we want because our needs are totally different from our wants.

A newly born baby needs milk for food, nourishment and growth. No matter how much the mother loves the baby, she must only feed it with milk.
She also even needs to be selective of what she eats as it is passed to the baby through the milk. Amazing!!!!

In similar vein, God is careful to release what we need per time to us so we don’t get chocked, constipated or be in harms way.

This is not to say we can’t aspire or desire. However, our desires and aspirations should be energies that drive us to achieve needs the right way and be able to create a balance.

For instance, as a young person who is in dire need and stranded : in need of affection, food, clothing and basic things. It is easy to think ‘I just need money to fix most of these needs’.

But let me shock you that you don’t even need money at all. I mean in meeting all these needs money might not even be needed by you directly.
Let’s break it down

1. The affection you need comes from people around in small pockets from people who ask simple questions like how are you today?, good morning, Are you okay?, Is anything the matter?, etc.
Some people might even come to visit you or give you a call. Smile at you or bump into you.

2. Feeding and other items can be given to you by sincere people. You will be amazed at how much people want to at least ensure that no one goes to bed hungry.

3. Some people just shows up to sponsor a training or skill acquisition program for you.

The list goes on and on.

Therefore we need to keep our minds open and be quick to balance thoughts.
When we can quickly balance our thoughts to focus less on our needs, we see how much of provision Olowogbogboro has made available for us per time.

God bless you as you enjoy the blessings of Olowogbogboro even beyond the Hallelujah challenge


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This one got me scratching my head furiously....
And the LORD was with Joseph, and he was a prosperous man; and he was in the house of his master the Egyptian.
This is the most paradoxical of statements, if there ever was one. A slave has nada, absolutely nothing! So how could a slave boy be said to be prosperous?


Then I got hit by an eureka moment, not while in the bath though.
If one is bereft of everything and anything but the person is committed to a burning dream, a dream that defies death then the person is not poor, can never be destitute, NEVER!
We know there was a time Harrison Ford was a carpenter.


Secondly....
But the LORD was with Joseph, and shewed him mercy, and gave him favour in the sight of the keeper of the prison.
What would make The One who gave Saturn its colorful rings leave his streets of gold and go dwell with an impoverished immigrant in some squalid slave quarters and also move with him into a dank, gloomy dungeon?
WHAT??!!!


You see, God had a dream. It was to save humanity through a gift, His Son.
The Son was to come through a lineage and if that family tree got uprooted or extirpated, it would affect the dream. Hence the lineage had to stay intact; it had to be totally preserved.
Nothing must disrupt the line. It was imperative that Joseph had to save his father and brothers, it was a must! On the other hand, the people the gift was meant for had to be alive to receive it too.
It was a global dream that included you and me in futuristic aeons to come.


Joseph bought into God’s dream. His dream benefited him quite alright but it was ultimately God’s.
God and Joseph were in a partnership to realize the same goal. Though he was just a teenager.
The dude was carrying something that mattered to heaven, a matter that eternity had interest in. That was why The Almighty had to follow Joseph wherever he went. He had to make sure things panned out good for the lad.


It is good to have dreams of our own but most importantly, it is wonderfully great to tap into God’s dream.
God is a lover and is all about people. He is consumed with blessing humanity and making lives better.
The dreams God will go all out for to make happen will be the ones that carry His heartbeat, passion, selfless ones.

Joseph knew this. He was aware of the fact that he could not make the dream come alive on his own, which was why he turned his back on Potiphar’s wife. He told her the transgression would be against God, he did not even mention his master.


The dream Giver still has dreams, massive ones for the good of humanity and is looking for dream catchers like Joseph who will unite with him to bring them to pass.
Let us all endeavor to get on this train...
I believe it will be a ride more exciting than the Orient Express.....


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I HATE STRESS!!!
Every fiber of my being detests it, but recently I am beginning to see it in a new light. However, I still don’t welcome it as a lover’s hug.

If Joseph had accepted Potiphar’s wife offer, it would have been so convenient, extremely so. Hammocks, cushions, dates and stolen kisses along the banks of the Nile would seemingly be a better option than a prison anytime.
Less work and more fun appears to be a better deal but thing was, the road to the palace had to be navigated through prison walls.

It was in the stressful environments of being a slave and a prisoner that Joseph honed his craft, developed capacity, learned administration and acquired managerial skills.
The harsh conditions brought out his very best so much that he became the go-to man.

I would wager that many ladies would swoon over dudes with bulging pecs, rippling beefcakes and six packs (not the beer kind).
That kind of musculature does not fall like ripe cherries over men. If it did, I would have looked more like Dwayne “the Rock” Johnson.
It comes by STRESS!
Stress that is laser focused and intentionally deployed. That is what Joseph did with his stress. He did not drag himself around in a catatonic haze moping and weeping, wondering why the deck of life had dealt him a bad hand.

Human beings can be stressful and Joseph encountered many of such people but he never became bitter or petty.
It was human beings that led him to the prison, brothers inclusive. It was also a human being that brought him out.

In it all Joseph still loved people (his dream boiled down to all about saving people), which was why he was able to see that the crestfallen countenance of the Butler and the Baker.
There would have been no shortage of schadenfreude for another in Joseph’s shoes seeing the notable officers of Pharaoh thrown in to share his gloomy quarters.

The most remarkable thing of all was that in those stressful seasons of his life, HE NEVER GAVE UP ON HIS DREAM! This was why he told the Butler, “Mention me unto Pharaoh, tell Pharaoh about me, give my dossier or C.V to the monarch!”
That was crazy audacity of faith and hope.

The dreams he had were dreams of leadership, of being first amongst equals and to him that meant he could stand in the same court with Pharaoh.
His brothers could take away his colorful robe but negative, stressful conditions and people could not strip him of his total belief and commitment to his dreams.
HE REMAINED EXPECTANT THROUGH IT ALL!

Stressful conditions and peeps abound but how we fare in such situations is dependent on us. Would we allow them break us, lose faith and hate people or would we use them to increase our capacity, skills and love?
IT IS A MATTER OF PERSPECTIVE!

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Use stress and distress to your advantage as you hold on to your dream.
NEVER WASTE YOUR STRESSFUL MOMENTS!

I trust that very soon, your phone will ring off the hook and you will pick up to hear Pharoah’s chief of Staff calling you to the palace.
When the time comes, will you be the man or woman for the job????
I believe we have everything it takes to be......BE EXPECTANT....

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Our dreams determine the boundaries of our lives.
For example, if you have a dream of living quite long to the point of seeing your grandchildren, that dream should inform the decisions of your diet.
It might make you decide not to eat anything beyond a certain time, or not to eat some certain kinds of food (for me this is quite pertinent cause of my sweet-tooth).

Sleeping with Potiphar’s wife would have seemed like a great choice for a teenage slave boy.
Dipping his hands like Winnie the pooh into the honeypot belonging to his master would have been a high, massive infusion for the self esteem of the lad.

Being asked to dine on such delectable Egyptian dish oozing with fragrances was enough to blow up his senses. Madam would have also ensured he never ran out of cash.
His wardrobe would have being upgraded. His value would have increased. It was a mouth offering offer!
I mean taking up the status of Egypt's first lady's boyfriend sounds dope.

However, dude ran for dear life.
He fled like a deer being hounded by a lioness. As inviting as the proposal was, it was nothing compared to the DREAM!
The proposition would have killed the dream. The future was at stake.

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Paul said that beside the knowledge of knowing God, all his attainments were dung, meaningless.

At the very end, it all boils down to what matters most to us.
What weighs most on the scales of our destinies...
It boils down to CHOICE....⁠⁠⁠⁠

What choices are you making today?

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In a deprivation riddled society like ours, it helps to dream.

Dreams take us on magical carpet rides beyond the harsh realities of the present. However, most times, we get to dream about things, the latest Escalade, designer wears, towering towers, millions in the account, positions, titles, etc.
As wonderful as these things are, dreaming about them is like longing for golden eggs when we can have the goose that lays them.

It was recorded that when Joseph interpreted Pharaoh’s dream, his own dreams came true. Concomitant to the realization of his dreams were an enviable position, the second best chariot in the land, a wife, kids, monetary rewards and all the luxury Egypt could afford then.

The actualization of Joseph’s dream came by creating value, solving problems; by saving a generation.
Every other thing was jara like we popularly say.
Though his brothers could not see it at that time, his dreams were not selfish; they did not revolve around him.

Henry Ford had a dream to provide cars that most Americans could afford and through that he created a legacy. He had a dream beyond himself and his immediate needs.

Joseph’s dream of having other sheaves bowing before his and heavenly bodies paying obeisance to him was a dream of leadership.
The dreams showed that he was going to stand out and he would be a luminary. His was not the kind of leadership that oppressed but the type that provided relief for an ailing world.
In the same vein, Henry Ford’s dream made him a leading force in the automobile industry of the world by meeting a need in his generation.

I dare say that to take the lead we might have to tweak our dreams a bit, you and I...
We must become dreamers of big dreams. When our dreams are so large that they are not limited to us, other things will certainly follow....

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⁠⁠⁠Thing is sometimes we have a little dream...minuscule dream ooo...

Then life knocks the stuffing out of us so much that we become undertakers and bury our dreams.

However, at such times that is when we should show our mettle, and dream even bigger dreams.



Joseph had a dream where his sheaves stood out amongst that of his brothers.

Small farmland dream and he faced opposition for it.



Instead of scampering away like a kicked spaniel, he went rough and dreamed again. What an audacity.

This time, he took it way higher, cranked up the amplitude by notches.



Joseph went extraterrestrial, celestial. In this technicolor dream, the sun, moon and stars paid obeisance to him. We all know how the story ended.

A page from this dude's book is worth borrowing in my opinion.

I kinda think you will agree though.



FACT: Despite all odds, it is not too late to have dreams. Start dreaming great dreams.



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June 2016.



“I thought the Ark would keep me safe. I didn’t know it would be tossed by the flood. He placed it on the mountains, far above the valley. My dove went out and never came back. He remembered me, He sent an Arc …”



Chapter 1



Sitting in a bus, I'm lost in my thoughts.
I'm looking out just to keep my thoughts real.
So much noise keeps distracting me.

"This medicine dey kill Malaria, Typhoid, Headache..." If only this woman by my side can just keep her voice low or round up this sales of hers. I bowed my head to say a little prayer.

"Lord, all I need is a miracle..."

My phone rings, its mum.
I really can't talk now in this noisy place.

Then it beeps again.
This, hopefully is the text I've been waiting for.
"Dear Applicant, it was a very tough decision informing you that you were not shortlisted for the next stage of the interview..."



Somehow, I didn't feel too bitter.
This is my 5th or 6th or 7th interview.
Again, I have been told I wasn't successful. Yet no one tells me why.

I called the man hawking buns and bought about five with a bottle of drink.

"Dear Lord, I know you sit in heaven.
Just in case you forgot my name, my name is Rachael and my story is real...



Dear esteemed readers, this is a story you'd love to read till the last chapter. Please stay glued as we bring you a chapter every week for the next 19 weeks.

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They occur in our minds making up the forces that spur our decisions, and our decisions subsequently determine our actions.
Out of our thoughts flow the issues of life.
It is possible we think one thing and act another but it is not possible we act something without first having thought about it.

Our thoughts are so powerful that it determines a whole lot for us and even people around us.

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The things we think or imagine command similar attention even before God as the things we ask.

“God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams!”

An 18th birthday party starts from the innate awareness of clocking age 18 biologically. And then it goes beyond awareness to thinking, “oh there could be a party”.
Thoughts of the party begin to play in our minds. We start to imagine what to wear, the kind of cake and design, food to be served at the party, venue for the party, how many friends to invite, etc. If this thought of a party is voiced out to people around us, they'll most likely agree to a celebration with us.

In short the party itself happens first in our imagination. Meaning that in our very own mind we can paint a picture of the things we desire.
Speaking out those things we picture to the right set of people makes it even better because we stand the chance of receiving help towards it becoming a reality.

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The thought of a successful and splendid 18th birthday party was the basis for other good thoughts which generated some good feelings, and subsequently led to actions being taken and the actual celebration of an 18th birthday assuming it happened.

When we paint pictures in our minds, if they make us feel good our faces might break into a smile that spread from ear to ear even though we are yet to see those things materialize. If we feel the pictures we paint in our minds can’t be achieved due to some reasons, we can become unhappy, angry or start frowning. This is how powerful our thoughts can be, even determining our outlook most times.

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When our thoughts are good, half of the problem is solved. Then when we act accordingly the problem is altogether solved. Acting accordingly may involve lots of other thought-processes and actions which we shall discuss in another post.
It is very important as individuals that we take charge of the things we think about. This leads me to asking:

Do you know your thoughts?

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

It is possible that you and I know our thoughts, master it and control what we think as it determines a whole lot about our life. In the mastery of our thoughts we keep our heart healthy. A healthy heart means a healthy life.

“Keep vigilant watch over your heart; that’s where life starts”

How do we keep our heart healthy?

“Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.”

When our thoughts are based on the adjectives listed above, we become beautiful and living becomes better.
When we have good thoughts, we constantly exude positivity which makes us really attractive.

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I believe Olajumoke Orisaguna, the famous bread seller had tons of positive thoughts on her mind before and on the day her face caught TY Bello's attention. Positive thoughts and desire that spurred her on daily despite the hard knocks of life.
Half her problems were solved already in her mind that way. And then just someday the power of her thoughts became so strong and overwhelming that someone noticed it.

Now is the time to start positive thinking, imagination, dreaming and aspirations.

Yes you can be positive.
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Lizzy went on the internet to read about committing suicide. Of course who would really want to commit suicide and go about asking people on how to. Very few would do that.
She soon found out different ways of committing suicide. I wish she could gather the strength to google instead “how to overcome emotional challenges or how to be free from life’s issues or I need help”. However, it is understandable these issues can be overwhelming and causes negative energies to surge more than the positive.

Lizzy tried a couple of things to end her life but she didn’t die. She admitted it takes some guts to end one’s life if not influenced by demons. She was later grateful that demons didn’t attend to her thoughts of committing suicide all the while.

She admitted committing suicide was not the way out.

It turned out that someone had been observing her while she was working. Lizzy really couldn’t have noticed there was someone looking out for her. And of course having been through life so roughly at such an early stage, it never crossed her mind that anyone could genuinely love and care for her.

Eventually, this lady sought her out. Gradually Lizzy warmed up to the lady and was able to share her story in episodes.
For the first time she didn’t feel judged for her way of life and past experience. What a relief. She experienced the reality of someone truly loving her and wanted nothing in return.

Perhaps you are just like Lizzy. You have issues weighing you down and just no one to talk to especially in climes and regions where you as a victim will be blamed and stigmatized for circumstances you didn’t have control over such as similar to Lizzy’s case.

This post is dedicated to you whether male or female, to let you know that you are not alone.

Life may have been tough for you growing up just like it was for Lizzy. You have these battles going on in your mind. You feel no one cares and no one can understand.

Yes you are right about no one being able to understand. However, sharing with someone eases the burden.

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And then the question of who can I share with. Everyone seems to be having their issues and as a result they say “fix yourself”.
I am glad to let you know there is a way out. If you believe in God, simply pray to Him to send you someone you can trust and feel free to talk to. Who can hold your hand through such a phase as you become better.

At Better Me, we love you and care about you.

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Lizzy lost her dad at age 6. Her mum was devastated. The family’s support system crashed. No one to help. The burden of upkeep became too heavy.
Her dad’s family weren’t too friendly anymore. As there were insinuations that her mum’s ill-luck caused her dad’s untimely death.

One uncle suggested marrying Lizzy’s mum since she was still young and youthful. On second thoughts he decided not to.
Moreover, he was influenced by the family not to, as the ill luck that was associated with Lizzy’s mum could also affect him and cause his untimely death. As if the widow would really think it a great idea to marry the uncle of her late husband.

In the end, Lizzy and her mum were thrown out of the house. After all, Lizzy wasn’t even a male child who could carry on the family name.

Faced with a hard life and uncertainty, Lizzy’s mum had to settle for a remarriage. She needed to survive. Her daughter at least needed a roof over her head. She had been out of job since she gave birth to Lizzy. Hence, getting a job immediately was a mountain too high to climb.

Her option of settling for a remarriage to escape the hardship as a result of her husband’s sudden demise turned out sour for Lizzy.
Lizzy was immediately exposed to a life she never envisaged as a little girl. First, she had to contend for her mum’s affection. Then started the physical and sexual abuse she had to endure from her step-father which really distressed her.

With no form of rescue in view, Lizzy had to quickly settle for her condition and internalized all her experiences, as horrible as they were. She could not tell her mum of the abuse she continually suffered at the hands of her step-father. There was no one to reach out to, no one to talk to, let alone defend her.
She soon became bitter, anti-social, developed low self-esteem and performed poorly in school. She became uncoordinated and was lost in a world of uncertainty with no hope of anyone ever finding her.

She managed to escape from her step-father and mother at age 15. For the First time in many years she felt free. However, the emotional trauma and pains inflicted upon her since childhood continued to haunt her.
The feeling of freedom gradually disappeared and she became confused not knowing what to do or where to turn. She quickly resolved to do whatever had to be done, to pay for whatever she needed in order to survive.
Her emotional state didn't help either. The love she so earnestly yearned for made her easy prey for prowling wolves and the unscrupulous. She lost every restraint and thought nothing of using her body to her advantage. After all that was the only means of survival available to her.

Her physical needs were being met. But her emotions got shattered the more at the turn of each day. She tried getting a job as a sales girl. She did that for a while, only for her to be fired suddenly for some shortage due to her being absent minded. Poor Lizzy. Life wasn't fair on her and what was already bad seemed only to be getting worse.

Lizzy became emotionally distraught. She felt, unloved, used, abused, depressed, distorted, and embittered. She started to hate people. Lizzy really needed help.
At a point she felt she couldn't go on again. What was the point to life after all? She thought to herself. She certainly was a waste of conception, a waste of time and a total waste of space. “Why not end my miserable life”, she thought to herself.

Committing suicide? Is that really the solution?

To be continued in the next post. Stay tuned.

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Dear Catherine,

How are you doing? I hope you are doing well. I miss you Catherine. But there is a chasm between us that is widening by the day. It’s so sad that you have been ignoring me and choosing not to pick my calls.
To be frank with you, I am not blinded by my love for you not to see the hand-writing on the wall. I can see clearly that you are slipping away from me.

Sometimes I think deep into the night wondering where it all went wrong. How could a perfect love go wrong? I have tried so many times to get us back to the way things were when our love was so strong, but it is obvious you want out.

I strongly wish you would come out straight. Believe me, it is alright to tell me what you think about it. I won’t begrudge you
Would you come out straight?

Sincerely Yours,

David



Dear David,

I am so sorry I have been acting so badly. And I am sorrier that despite all you have done for me and how you always put yourself out for me, I have to pay you back like this.
To be truthful, I have found where my heart belongs, and I will be getting married next month. Plus I found out I am pregnant too… Though not the best I expected to happen to now. However, it has happened and I need to face it.

I know you don’t deserve any of these, but I hope you will one day understand and find it in your heart to forgive me my betrayal.

I am so sorry.

Hasta la Vista

Catherine



Dear David,

How are you? I really hope you a good. This is Margaret. Just in case you have forgotten. I have written to you several times now, but I have gotten no reply. No calls, no texts, no e-mails, nothing. You are just silent.

I remember the time I met you. I took a strong liking to you and in from the little time we spent together, I developed great feelings for you.

I know you have these demons from your past that still haunts you. I try to make you talk about it but you prefer to keep mum about it. Despite all these, I still love you. I long to see you. I have really missed you.

I hope you will reply this time around.

Everly Yours

Margaret.



Dear David,

I really expected a reply but I didn’t get one. I am gradually coming to terms with it. You are not picking up calls nor replying text messages. I often wonder why.

Last week I found a stray dog on the streets. I took it in and gave it a wash. It kinda reminded me of you- He is cuter though.
I try not to think about you, but whenever my mind isn’t engaged with something else, I can’t help it.

How are you doing?

Margaret



Dear David,

What’s up with you? What’s the deal? Why are you acting all weird and stuck-up? Are you so blind that you can’t see something good when it stares you in the face? I have laid aside so much of my honour just to show you how I feel towards you.

I can’t comprehend why you are so blind. I think you are simply stupid and plain dumb not to realize how much you need me and how much I need you.

You have to reach out to me David. I will be the biggest loss in your life.

We are meant to be together,

Margaret



Dear Mr-i-am-too-good-for-Margaret,

Who the hell do you think you are? Adonis or God Himself? I loved you and you simply ignored me. For all the pains you caused me I hope your conscience eats at you and you can’t sleep at night because of it.

I hate you David, and so you would know, you are one-of-a-kind in a stupid sense.

Go-swing-from-a-tree,

Margaret



Dear Margaret,

I am terribly sorry I have not replied any of your letters till now. I have been ill for some time and just got strong enough to write you this one.

I did not ignore you intentionally. I really wanted to reach out to you but my phones and laptops were kept away from me.

I pray with my whole heart that I recover very soon. Don’t be angry and frustrated with me. I need you to know that there is beauty in the world.

I love you Margaret. Hold fast to that and take care of yourself for me.

Faithfully Yours,

David



That’s the letter he wrote to you before he died this morning. He asked me to give it to you. He has been ill for years now, but for the most part he has kept it to himself and walked around like nothing was wrong.

I know he had good and strong feelings for you and really wanted to be with you, and I know you feel the same way-cos I saw all of the letters you sent him.

I am sorry we had to lose him the way we did. He will be buried 5 days from now. If you are strong enough to bear it, I would really love to have you around for the funeral. I will at least have a consolation he had a friend and was loved while he was alive.

Sincerely Yours,

Sally (David’s sister)



Many atimes, when we do not get the deserved response or expectation from people no matter whom, we may need to humbly and sincerely check again and again to see and ensure nothing is going wrong with them.

This way we would be saving ourselves a whole lot of emotional issues and we may be able to help others with solutions.

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A gift for you.
Has your name on it.
Yeah! Belongs to you.

Santa's gift of chocolate, biscuits, all you have wished for and gotten from him may have finished despite trying hard to make it last a little longer.
However, relax! Do not despair. Don't be sad because here is a gift with your name on it.
Note: You can pick all three gift if you want.

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(Made in the best condition with finest ingredients. No preservative added. 100% divine.)

Composition: Patience, Kindness, Tolerance, Perseverance, Humility, Selflessness.
All components in adequate proportion and makes up 100% fine blend.

Unavoidable Use: Strongly recommended for all kinds of emotional issues especially to overcome hatred, low self-esteem, and depression. To be used internally, verbally and spiritually. Prevents a lot of emotional baggage that may result to serious heart dysfunctionalities.

Basic Dosage: 3 Drums, 3 times daily.

Side Effects: Tested on humans and no adverse side effect recorded. Hence very safe for consumption in large doses till intoxicated. However, if symptoms of hatred, selfishness, strife and pride persist after 21 days, please consult a super physician.

Expiry Date: Components are indestructible. Components will not decompose Can only multiply and keep multiplying. Hence no expiry dates.
You are free to keep as much as you can till you desire to.
Physician’s Advice: Keep it for ever.

Exception: No exception to age or gender. Suitable for all age group and gender worldwide at all stages of life.

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(Made from carefully selected fine ingredients. 80% divine; 20% natural)

Composition: Calmness, Tenderness, Courage, Forgiveness, Humility, Emotional Intelligence
All components in adequate proportion and makes up 100% fine blend.

Recommended Use: To be used in the face brewing trouble. Can also be used to avert and avoid all kinds of strife as well as violence.

Basic Dosage: 1 bucket full, 3 times daily.

Side Effects: Tested on humans and no adverse side effect recorded. Hence very safe for consumption in large doses till you receive a Nobel Prize for being peaceful. However, if symptoms of hatred, selfishness, strife, fight, trouble making, violence, pride persist after 21 days, please consult a super physician.

Expiry Date: At the notice of slight hatred or desire to be violent, there are tendencies of reduced potency of components. Hence, the need for reinforcement of constituent ingredients.

Physician’s Advice: Keep adequate quantity of ingredients in store to sustain potency and availability

Exception: No exception to age or gender. Suitable for all age group and gender worldwide at all stages of life.

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(Made from 100% divine components)

Composition: Deep rooted happiness in the soul, strength, wisdom.
All components in adequate proportion and makes up 100% fine blend.

Use: To prevent all forms of depression and deep seated emotional issues that may arise from situations of life. Prevents heart related issues and promotes healthy heart functionalities.

Basic Dosage: 5 barrels, 3 times daily.

Side Effects: No adverse side effect recorded ever. Hence, very safe for consumption in large doses till overflow. However, if symptoms of depression, sadness, mood swings persist after 21 days, please consult a super physician.

Expiry Date: Due to the divine nature of components, it does not expire.

Physician’s Advice: Keep in abundance.

Exception: No exception to age or gender. Suitable for all age group and gender worldwide at all stages of life.

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An average human being irrespective of culture, tradition, system, location has this innate desire to relate with a super power or even become one. By super power I mean something or someone greater and more powerful than one, in most cases spiritual. A source we can draw strength from and feel safe at the thought of.

For many people, relating with a super power or deity through an object or an individual is just fine. Really this is most common. It usually appears as if one must be given right of access to the deity especially when it appears we need to relate with the super power through an individual.
In fact in most climes, only the adults can have easy access to relate with an object or representative of a deity. If at all a young person gets a chance it’s just to watch, obey or such a person is a “chosen one”. Of course one feels safe and powerful being the only one who happens to know a code or password that unlocks something spectacular, powerful, and confidential to say the least.

But here is good news. There is a super powerful being who you do not need an object or permission to relate with. You feel safe, powerful and spectacular with Him and yet you influence others humbly. You feel free to let others have access to Him on their own. No gate fee or hidden charge. A relationship with no interruption or a go between. Here, age, class, tribe, culture isn't an issue.

Legally, one needs to be of some certain age to drink, smoke or posses some things in most countries. But to this super powerful man whose name is Jesus, just anyone can have access to Him. He is not only for adults. He is for all and wants to be for you specially. The only Super Power who is for all but yet can be customized for you.

He is the super powerful you don't need permission from anyone to have access to. The only person you need permission from is you.
More so you have a direct access 24/7 all year round from anywhere in the world. Isn't that amazing. In as much as you have given yourself permission to relate with Jesus, never forget intimacy with Him is not only for adults.

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There is someplace where safety is guaranteed. Where one feels completely secured and is assured of rest despite all the happenings world over.

From Boko Haram bombings in Nigeria to the radical Islamic groups bloodshed in the Middle East. From Xenophobic attacks in South Africa to Serial shootings, Homicides, Racism in the Americas and Terrorism in many places.
From Abject poverty in Africa to Incessant Rape cases in India and Sweden. Debt crisis and Welfare cuts, Earthquakes, Heatwave, Typhoons, Landslides, Tornadoes, Flooding, Hurricanes, Wars and rumors of war, Insecurity, Corruption, Plane crashes, Diseases, Epidemics, Falsehoods, Broken homes, Bad leadership, Kidnappings, Global warming, Injustice, Discrimination, Rejection, Suicide, Religious intolerance, Confusion, Depression etc. These are some of the issues human race are having to deal with, and we are all affected in one way or the other.

These issues make us sad, unhappy, discouraged, greatly distressed, hopeless, helpless, depressed, tired, and sometimes even lost. Many a times we just don't know what to do or where to go.
Hmmmm! It can be pathetic. Some are left with no other choice than to do terribly awful things in order to survive. Some decide to let go of life itself.

Irrespective of what we decide to do in different situations of life, I need you to know that one place is safe. Your heart with CHRIST in it is safe. Abiding under the shadow of the Almighty God is SAFE.

Difficult life situations, vexations of the soul, worries and problems make everywhere unsafe, and we are constantly under threat of body harm. But you need to know here is safe, your heart with Christ in it, irrespective of where ever you may be located.

Even when our choices and decisions have made us be at risk. Even when we have been subjected to risk of losing it all, here can still be safe, our hearts with CHRIST in it. He stands at the door to your HEART asking to come in.
Simply let Him in and keep Him in always.

So long you allow Christ in and keep Him in your heart, He will steer you through the course of life. No time is too late to let Him in. Only when life is no more will it become late.
Before letting go of life itself due to overwhelming situations, let go of your heart to Jesus first and you will be safe even eternally.

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Purposeful perspective of money II

As much as money is needed for most things that aids survival, so also there is the need to have good information and understanding about money, especially how to make it.
In addition to making money, one needs to imbibe the habit of saving it and investing it.

Below are some ways in which money is usually made:
1. Selling products.
2. Rendering services.
3. Working as an employee and being paid.

As an individual or nation we need to determine what product(s) to sell, service(s) to render and what jobs to do in exchange for money.
As a young person who needs money for one or two things relating to basic needs of life or getting an education, selling needed product(s) could just be a source of cash inflow to meet those needs.

The internet is full of adverts and publications on the things people need, and these needs could be met by offering to sell products or render the necessary services to those who need them.
Of course, some of the processes involved in such ventures could be a little intricate, but this post is basically to highlight basic ways to make money.

Many young people render services such as serving food at parties, waiters in restaurants, traffic/parking-control warden, car exterior cleaning during events and they get paid.
Some have horned their skills in making party food, cocktail drinks, dessert, steak meat, smoked fish, barbecue etc and they are paid to render these services at events.

Being very brilliant in some subjects may just be a gift you can convert into making money by teaching other students such subjects at a fee. But you must be very good at it and be able to pass across that knowledge effectively.

There are some market places where some people dread going because of navigation issues and the fear of being cheated. These uncharted areas can be explored; whereby you lead customers to these market areas where they would get good quality products and real value for their money, and you reach an agreement on how much to be paid for your time, patience, knowledge and value you have added to them.
Customers must be able to trust that you will lead them through the market successfully and not try to deceive them.

In busy cities, working a paid employment could be time consuming. Most workers would appreciate some relief when you do their laundry, sweep or clean for them. All these must be done with caution and accountability. If services will be rendered in people's homes, one may insist on it being done outdoors for the sake of safety and to prevent being harassed.

People get on the internet for information and education these days. This is another area with huge wealth potentials that can be unlocked. If you need more proof, ask Linda Ikeji, Mark Zuckerberg and a host of other people who have used the social media and leveraged on internet to bridge the gap between money and them.

Making hair for little girls is a service area where most hairdressers shy from because of the belief that making hair for children takes more time and is tedious. Someone might just develop that patience to make hair for children and start to make good money. Train others to do likewise and refer them to your teeming customers. You could decide to charge a token fee on your referrals.

Even as a barber, you may have a mobile hygienic barbing kit; A power bank to power your clipper or that of your client; a mirror and a host of other items that enable you deliver excellent home service.
I often see parents driving a distance just to get a haircut for their boys or even for themselves. Bringing excellent haircut service to them in their homes would have saved them some time and cost.

TIP: If bridal makeovers fetch money for people, then you can invent “groom makeover”.

FACT: Only if we would take time to look inwards, around us, and have a positive outlook on life would we find that there are lots of ideas we could convert to tangible products and services to bridge the gaps between money and us.

A major hindrance so far is the fact that honesty, reliability, Integrity, confidentiality and good human relationship skills are very scarce these days. And without such characteristics, these money-making ideas might not be successful even as you have known some now or as you may already have.

ACTION: If we could decide to start being honest, hard;smart working, reliable, and trustworthy in our dealings with other people, you will be surprised how these virtues over time translate to tangible wealth and you have your needs met.

Edited by: Tobi Oni

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Purposeful Perspective of Money

Money is one word majority of humans existing on earth can relate to. Arguably, it is the most mentioned word daily in the world's vocabulary.
Even a one year old child recognises money in whatever form it is, whether as coins, paper notes irrespective of which part of the globe it is being used.

Wikipedia puts it that Money is any item or verifiable record that is generally accepted as payment for goods and services and repayment of debts in a particular country or socio-economic context.
The main functions of money are distinguished as: a medium of exchange; a unit of account; a store of value; and, sometimes, a standard of deferred payment. Any item or verifiable record that fulfills these functions can be considered money.

Money is historically an emergent market phenomenon establishing a commodity (money), but nearly all contemporary money systems are based on fiat money.
Fiat money, like any check or note of debt, is without intrinsic use/value as a physical commodity. It derives its value by being declared by a government to be legal tender; that is, it must be accepted as a form of payment within the boundaries of the country, for "all debts, public and private".

Money is a necessity of the economy. All countries of the world need money to sustainably run a successful economy and to put basic amenities as well as structures in place for improved living conditions of its citizens.
The Family, as a basic unit of the society, as well as an individual needs products and services for which money can be exchanged.

FACT: Money is a means of exchange for services or products, and without it living day-to-day would be hard, and accomplishing tasks/set goals would be difficult if not impossible.

Money can be used as an exchange for a wide variety of products and services. E.g food, clothing items, cars, gadgets, healthcare service, etc.

FACT: Because of the need for money, money needs to be made, and be made legitimately.

Please watch out for the next post on purposeful perspective of money.

Editor: Tobi Oni





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Purposeful Perspective

Someone once said; people were created to be loved and things(materials) were created to be used. But the world is in chaos because things are being loved and people are being used.
Having the right perspective of things and situations actually goes a long way in saving us a lot of troubles and regrets. And occasionally, it is good to look at the past to gain a perspective on the present.

Mark Zukerberg had a reason for creating facebook. He saw the need for people connecting with each other across various geographical location and time. He saw a need to connect people across various divides, while some see it as a means of propagating and carrying out nefarious activities.
Irrespective of the numerous misuse of the social media platform, the primary and ultimate purpose of connecting people is still there, no one can take this away.

Now permit me to ask that we see things in the perspective of its purpose for existence and apply its use mostly based on purpose.
Yes I agree that we should think outside the box and be creative with things, to have several other perspective so we can get the best out of it but we must be careful not to allow perversion. We shall be talking about different examples highlighting primary purposes for existence most importantly to educate us and also as a reminder.

1. Clothes: Irrespective of beliefs, religion or location I am certain we all agree that it's meant primarily for cover, warmth and beautification. To protect our skin from being hit by harsh weather elements or objects.
I have seen situations where people were glad they had their bodies covered with clothes because it prevented some stain and damage to the skin. We are wowed when we see people dressed neatly and nicely.

On the other hand, clothes could pose some certain threats. An example is a heavy machine operator not wearing a specified clothing designed for such activity but wearing a flowing cloth. A flowing or loose apparel could get him or her as well as other people hurt. The flowing part could get into the moving machine parts and pull in a body part (e.g. his fingers) if not all the body along. That could be very fatal if not deadly.

FACT: Dress purposefully. As occasion demands keeping in mind safety, modesty, beauty and decency.

Its socially acceptable that someone who has his/her hair dirty and&; unkempt, torn dirty clothes on and wanders on the street is most probably mentally ill and out of touch. In this light it is just socially acceptable also that we dress in such a way that we will be admired and respected and not seen as mentally ill.

Well done to fashion designers world over who have contributed to keeping us covered and fashionable at the same time . And we encourage upcoming creative fashion designers because its a  huge money making business. But we still need to keep in view that clothings are first for the very purpose of cover, warmth and beautification.
Yeah some people believe in the saying if you have got it flaunt it. They see nothing wrong in walking around half-naked in the name of being fashionable and trendy. It seems like they derive a depraved satisfaction when people ogle them. But looking closely again, it is observed that no one likes to be jeered at. Hence the need for us to always dress purposefully.

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